You know that moment when you have an opportunity to say something negative about someone? That person that irks you or acts like they are above everyone else? You have the perfect one liner on the tip of your tongue? You are surrounded by people who probably feel the same way you do about that person. That comment ready to come out of your mouth that is sure to get huge laughs of agreement? The timing could not be more perfect. BITE YOUR TONGUE! Swallow those words, please. You know it’s wrong to say it (yes, even if you believe it to be a true statement, it’s still wrong to say it out loud.) so don’t.
I am a firm believer of, “If you can’t something nice don’t say anything at all.” There is so much negative in the world why add to it? You might say, well, it’s just one comment and nobody likes so and so, and shoot, it’s the truth. I don’t care. Those words once spoken cannot be un -said.
How does God feel about that person you are about to make fun of? Does He love you more than He loves that person? Nope! Back up and change your focus for a minute.
How about a challenge? The next time you are in this situation, stop. Don’t say it. It might not be noticed by those around you at first but after a while, it will. People will realize that you are aren’t going to stoop low for the laugh at anyone’s expense. People might start to trust and respect you a bit more because if you aren’t stabbing at others you probably won’t stab at them when their back it turned.
And those same people that would laugh at your comments before might stop making those comments themselves about other people. I’m not even suggesting that you replace the negative words with positive ones. That’s for another day. It might be hard to come up with nice things to say right off the bat that wouldn’t come off as sarcastic or insincere. Seriously, don’t force it until you have first stopped the negative stuff. Don’t worry, people will still think you are funny.
They say that words have a ripple effect. Can you imagine the impact if you stopped those negative ripples before they even started?
“Those who control their tongue will have a long life; opening your mouth can ruin everything.”
Proverbs 3:13 NLT