“You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well.” Matthew 5:38-40
Jesus tells us to turn the other cheek. Many think this means that we, as Christians, should be meek and not defend ourselves. This is not what Jesus is saying. Many theologians believe that this passage is saying that we are to let go of the desire to get revenge on those who have wronged us. We should respond with empathy. We should have kindness and gentleness in response to everyone…no matter what they did to us. This is a sign of strength not weakness. The weak response would be to lash out to get revenge. It takes great strength to be gracious and kind.
Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” You have to remove yourself from the situation because some people just like to argue. By the way, you will not win an argument on Facebook or Twitter. No one ever has had a change of heart after arguing on social media. I promise.
In the process of turning the other cheek, you have to come to a point of forgiveness. This is not for the other person. This is for you. When you are wronged it hurts. It may take a while to move passed it, but you must. That other person is living life and going on. You cannot let yourself get stuck in a rut of un-forgiveness. You must give it God. This is easier said than done. Trust me, I know. Sometimes you have to give it God over and over and over again. Allow God to take it from you and heal you. He will take care of you. Remember you are hemmed in (Psalm 139:5-6.) And, He will take care of the person who hurt you. It’s God’s business, not yours.
Turn the other cheek. It’s the healthiest thing for your soul.