People will not remember how others treat you. They will remember how you treat others.
I was hurt by a friend. It happens. It is life. But, none the less, it hurt. I was betrayed and it stung. I was shocked because of all that we had been through together. Yet, I knew I had to forgive. God commands us to forgive. She wasn’t apologizing nor asking for forgiveness. But, I was still called to forgive. Unforgiveness would not allow me to move forward. I wrestled with God. I deserved an apology. If I forgive and move on, what happens if and when she betrays me again?
Let me say, this was not an overnight thing. It took months to work through my hurt and get to the point of forgiveness.
Our pastor was preaching a series on grace. One Sunday he said something that cemented the answer to the struggle in my heart.
“We are responsible for our witness.” If I fail to forgive, it taints my witness for Him. If I hold grudges and remain bitter it, most definitely, takes away from what I proclaim as a follower of Jesus Christ.
After this sermon, God quietly reminded me of a promise I’ve held dear for years, “You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me to attain.” Psalm 139:5-6 says, “Don’t worry, Jill, I’ve got your back. I know your heart and your hurts and your fears, but I will never leave you….even when others hurt you, I am here.”
Forgiving is my part, God has the rest until His control. It is so freeing to know that I am safe in the palm of His hand.
2 John 3 – 6: “ Grace, mercy and peace from God the Father and from Jesus Christ, the Father’s Son, will be with us in truth and love.
4 It has given me great joy to find some of your children walking in the truth, just as the Father commanded us. 5 And now, dear lady, I am not writing you a new command but one we have had from the beginning. I ask that we love one another. 6 And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands. As you have heard from the beginning, his command is that you walk in love.”